Lent 4 B + Unexpected Jesus + 3.14.21

 


M. Campbell-Langdell

All Saints, Oxnard

(Numbers 21:4–9; Psalm 107:1–3, 17–22; Ephesians 2:1–10; St John 3:14–21)

 

For God so loved the world that God threw up God’s arms in glee and pulled us into a big hug.
For God so loved the world that God didn’t trip us when we passed God’s table in the cafeteria, but instead passed out ice cream that tasted of eternal life.

For God so loved the world… of course you know the real words, about giving his only son so that everyone who believes in God will not perish but have eternal life.

But I share these unconventional takes on the phrase to prove a point. We expect John 3:16. Even those of us who didn’t grow up memorizing Bible verses sort of know what to expect when we read the text. It is about how Jesus gave his life for us, and we should all praise him, right? Well, yes, but there is more to it. In reality this statement and our response is quite unexpected.
Which brings me to Duchess Goldblatt, a twitter persona whose goal is always to surprise the reader. She is not a real person, but the creation of a writer who likes to write in the guise of an 81-year old best-selling author who is both self-obsessed and endlessly loving and maternal to her followers.  Here are some examples of her tweets: “Sometimes I tie your words in linen with a little lavender and mint and use them as a poultice for my weary old heart.” And one about coffee I quite like: “Each day’s first sip of coffee is a confirmation: Yes, you’re my coffee and I love you. The second sip, I suggest to you, is life itself.”[1] Just substitute beverage of your choice if you are not a coffee lover!

Of course on the surface, these sayings are just bits of whimsy that in some cases show deep wisdom or kindness or at least a good sense of humor. But I love what she did at Lent- acting as a spiritual counselor to her twitter followers, she advised different people to do different things, very unusual as Lenten practices: for example, “Whenever you see the color purple, I’d like you to take a deep breath and hold it for a count of seven.” Or  another: “I’d like you to stop using the word ‘very’, and in so doing, pause in contemplation of the gifts you’ve been given.” Or “I’d like you to pick up and write with blue pens, not black pens or pencils. In so doing, contemplate what loving kindness means.”[2] Now, these may seem fanciful but what a great way to embrace mindfulness as a part of the Lenten discipline? And they are certainly unexpected.

Now back to the gospel. Jesus is speaking with Nicodemus, who has probably just seen him make some noise at the temple, casting out the money-changers and sellers of animals. Nicodemus knows that Jesus is about something different. And prior to the part of the conversation we hear today there is some business about being born from above or born again. And it is easy to see why Nicodemus was a bit perplexed by Jesus’ words. But the truth is that Jesus’ words about God’s love would have also been surprising and unexpected. First of all, God’s love? Yes there are a lot of mentions in the prophets about how God and Israel are like lovers. And hesed or loving-kindness, is a key concept. But the predominant feeling is that God is to be feared and obeyed and praised in much of the Hebrew Scriptures. And that people have to show their entire commitment to God and righteousness. This is a theme that continues in many Christian traditions today. Hence the serpents that get sicced on the people who complain in today’s reading from Numbers. People still find healing, but sometimes the God of the Hebrew Scriptures is fearsome.  So Jesus is really flipping the script but talking about how God loves us. And I bet that surprises Nicodemus. I can almost imagine Nicodemus like a teenage kid embarrassed by their parent saying “I love you” who responds “OK.” And in addition, to say God would sacrifice God’s only son for us so we can be saved is mind-blowing. I mean, in so many other scenarios people must prove their worthiness in order not to be destroyed. And here instead of wrath we get mercy, undeserved? Before we have even fully repented (although that is what the Baptist calls for), God in Jesus is saying, here is life? Thinking of God as father is also unexpected, although there are glimpses of this concept in the Hebrew Scriptures. How can God do this act of wanton love and sacrifice?

And it is not all about the cross. Although of course the cross is important. So often we think of the lifting up of the son and his sacrifice as the one saving moment. But no, the cross leads to the resurrection, and new life. And the resurrection leads to the ascension, where Jesus makes that new life available to all of us. Talk about an unexpected gift!

But there are gifts we receive here and now, also. One of the unexpected gifts I received this week was learning about having compassion for myself and others via intuitive eating. All too often in our culture one place many experience a lack of love is with themselves and their relationship to food. But intuitive eating says that rather than focusing on what one should or should not eat, the idea is to ask yourself what you would feed a loved one who was not trying to either diet or over-indulge? What balance would you strike with them and how can you translate that into how you treat yourself? This is a way to show yourself the unexpected love God has for you. And if you can find a way to do that, you will free up compassion in yourself for others, too.[3]
So yes, we are expected to turn our lives to Jesus, to adjust our orientation towards the lamb that was lifted up, this Lent. But God will always surprise us with the unexpected. And that is the love that comes even when we don’t feel it for ourselves. The compassion that pours out of Jesus’ side and his gaze. The kindness that we experience in communing with other people of faith, whether online or in person one on one. The compassion that we feel when we nourish ourselves and others lovingly. God is with us. Look out for the unexpected ways that God wraps God’s arms around you or sings a little silent serenade of love to you this week. If you pay attention, you will feel it. You will hear it. Amen.



[1] Becoming Duchess Goldblatt, Ch. 2 and https://twitter.com/duchessgoldblat

[2] Becoming Duchess Goldblatt, Ch. 15.

[3] The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos, “Feed Yourself like You’d Feed a Loved One” (January 17. 2021), Podcast on Stitcher.

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